Superheroes
On Father's Day, we traditionally say Thank You to all the dads in our lives. There may be cards and gifts made by little hands, breakfast in bed and sloppy kisses.
In a special way, we should acknowledge our grieving dads today, too; our every-day superheroes...the very ones who often so gracefully carry the heartache of their partner's loss as well as their own.
Thank you for holding us and drying our tears when it all gets too much to bear.
On Father's Day, we traditionally say Thank You to all the dads in our lives. There may be cards and gifts made by little hands, breakfast in bed and sloppy kisses.
In a special way, we should acknowledge our grieving dads today, too; our every-day superheroes...the very ones who often so gracefully carry the heartache of their partner's loss as well as their own.
Thank you for holding us and drying our tears when it all gets too much to bear.
Thank you for shielding us from some of the whispered enquiries as to
how we are "holding up" when all too often, nobody seems to be asking how you are.
Thank you for soldiering on and going out to work; sometimes even before
you were truly ready to; grief your companion along much of the way; so
that the family is provided for. You should not have to do that.
Thank you for continuing to live and smile for us and any other kids you
might have. Please know it is OK to not always feel like it.
Thank you for accepting us as we are on the good, bad and downright ugly
days - offering your never-ending love and support. Please know we'd do the same for you.
Thank you for being the reason we got to have this child - because
despite what happened, we would not want to change that for the world.
Please know that we can be rocks for each other in this - because nobody can or should be expected to be a 'superhero' all the time. You are allowed to grieve for this little person whom you have watched being born into this world and being torn right out of it again before their time.
Please know that we can be rocks for each other in this - because nobody can or should be expected to be a 'superhero' all the time. You are allowed to grieve for this little person whom you have watched being born into this world and being torn right out of it again before their time.
It's not OK to be told you must be strong for us.
It's not OK that you are expected to carry our grief as well as yours.
It's not OK that you're expected to resume 'normal service' way before you might feel ready because you need to keep providing for the family.
Because despite of what we were told men should be:
It is ok to hurt.
It is ok to cry.
It is ok to be angry.
It's ok to need more time. Then and later!
It is ok never to "get over it".
It is ok never to "get over it".
We know dads like to mend things that are broken (and in fact are often really good at it!) but:
You will not able to fix this one...as much as you may want to...and
that too, is OK.
Know that you are, always have been and always will be a very special
daddy.
With Love
xxx
daddy.
With Love
xxx
