Thursday 26 June 2014

Another Step Along The Road

Tomorrow, we will take another big step in our grieving process.

We are preparing ourselves to pick up Patrick's things from the creche he and his brother have attended since February 2010 and September 2012 as this location is closing for good. I guess, we should have done this ages ago but felt OK with leaving his stuff, part of him, there. This is perhaps giving us the push we needed...

Thankfully, Eoghan still gets to be with the same people and some of his friends after moving to the main branch they have a little bit further from home. He is settling in and currently busy discovering all those new toys and making new friends.

Patrick's bag and belongings have remained in the creche since he passed away and bringing them home will be emotional. Despite of what happened, we will be sad to say good-bye to this place that holds so many good memories for us.

As I think about this, another one of those things that we are forced to do by fate, I cannot help but feel sad and angry.

Sad that he is gone. That this really happened to us.
Angry because all I am reading in the papers lately seem to be stories about children being mistreated by their parents, neglected or even killed.

Two year old in China addicted to beer and wine?
22 month old left in the backseat of his fathers car as he goes to work for 9 hours leaving his son to die in the heat...allegedly after "forgetting" to drop him off at day care?
Parents turning their backs on their children over silly stuff?

The very people that our children should be able to trust and rely on most, their parents, end up being the ones who fail them in so many ways.

I would love to get my hands on some of those people and knock a good dose of sense into them.

Cherish the fact that you have been blessed to have become parents. A lot of us are denied this blessing.
Cherish your children. Support them and love them unconditionally. Who cares who they fall in love with?
You may not always agree with their choices but you are supposed to be there for them anyway (barring the odd extreme exceptions maybe).

As a bereaved parent, it hurts me beyond measure to see other parents mistreat, neglect or actively work on alienating their children.

Wanna swap?



PS. I too have to remind myself of this
occasionally.